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Separation:
Lots of couples try separation to see if they can fix their marriage problems. And this can be anything from moving to another town, state or even another country to actually stay living in the same home. You need separate bedrooms obviously and preferably separate other rooms as well although small abodes can work. If you find you miss your partner and that you'd like to give your marriage another try, divorce papers are no longer an option for you.
What's the Problem:
If your marriage is't working, you need to ask yourself why. Why are you thinking or talking about divorce. Simply because there are troubles doesn't necessarily mean it is the end. Pinpoint the problem. Once the two of you know the cause of your angst, you can start work to find a solution to the problem. Many couples get into strife and play the blame game. Instead you should hold fire and seek to know what is causing the problem.
Think future:
You might believe you want to get a divorce but have you thought about the future? is your lifestyle going to be affected? Do you have debts which you alone could struggle to pay? Where will you live? How much responsibility will you have for any children you may have? Sure, divorce may be the only way to save your sanity but think about the effects once that divorce is granted.
After shock:
Yes a divorce will change your situation but will the change be what you want or expect? If you have kids there's a good chance they will become upset, even deeply so. Do you want to inflict this suffering on your beloved child? Today divorce is no longer the shameful position it was in the past but some people don't handle their status well. They see it as a failure. Think about the after shock if and when your divorce comes through. It may change your relationship with your spouse but what will it do to your relationship with your children, your friends and other extended family?
If you've become secretive about your marriage, if you're checking on your spouse being suspicious of what they may be doing, you're not in a good position to act clearly regarding a possible divorce. It's not wise to isolate yourself, to go into the spy mode. Being open, seeking a way through is far better.
If the answer to these questions is Yes, divorce may be the best option for you.








